You are the spouse or partner of someone living with dementia and want to do the best you can to care for them.
The Protective Spouse Support
On your caregiving journey, you may encounter many different support systems and individuals—from medical professionals to other experienced caregivers. Through our conversations, we have collected the following resources to help support the questions or concerns you may have.
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Planning
Planning for Getting Older
It’s important to take time for your own future planning. Access to accounts, diversified investments, insurance, and appointing a power of attorney are all important aspects to consider.
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Estate Planning 101: Decide Who Can Make Decisions
Preparing for the future is an important step for any adult. Documenting who you want to make decisions on your behalf when you are no longer able to allows you to age the way you prefer while making the life of your caregivers easier.
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How to Have Messy Conversations as Early as Possible
It is not easy to talk about making plans for when you are older, what your end-of-life wishes are, or to bring up changes you have recently noticed. Listen to the tips and tricks of experienced social worker Jackie Herman to learn how to best approach these conversations.
Knowledge
Visiting a Behavioural Neurologist
Getting support from a behavioural neurologist can be an important step in the journey of someone living with dementia. Prepare yourself for the first visit including what questions to ask and other things to consider.
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Testing for Alzheimer's and Dementia
Testing for dementia is a standard part of the diagnosis journey, but it can also be confusing. Learn more about the process and why testing sometimes isn’t the answer.
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Recognizing the Signs of Dementia
If you see more frequent and persistent changes in someone’s memory, social and emotional behaviour, language and/or familiar tasks, then it could indicate a potential dementia diagnosis. You may also use the Signs & Signal Journal (PDF) below to keep track of changes.
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The Value of Getting a Diagnosis Early
Sometimes it can be hard to distinguish signs of dementia, as it can look very similar to, for example, depression. An early diagnosis can help you get the support, treatment, and care you need, and will help you and your care team plan for the future.
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Ways to Reduce Your Risk of Getting Dementia
Reducing your risk of developing dementia actually begins in childhood. While there is no guaranteed way to prevent dementia, a healthy diet such as the Mediterranean diet and vitamin B, an active lifestyle, and frequent social and cognitive engagements have all shown evidence to reduce the risks of dementia.
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Treatments That Could Reduce the Symptoms of Dementia
Currently, there is no cure for Alzheimer’s or related dementias. Diagnosing underlying diseases that can cause or contribute to dementia can help guide treatment. In the case of Alzheimer's, there are treatments that help reduce the symptoms and even over time improve outcomes, but they don’t stop the disease in its tracks.
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Give Yourself a Break: Respite in Caregiving
Respite can be an overlooked part of managing caregiver stress and burnout. Hear from a clinical social worker’s perspective for ideas on finding respite supports. Learn also how to support a primary caregiver, if you’re a different member of the care team.
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Cultural Differences in Caregiving
Different cultures have varying perspectives and expectations around caregiving and additional supports. Some families may experience barriers that others don’t when getting help for themselves or their loved ones.
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How Professional Services Can Support Caregivers
There are many different ways in which professional services can support, from hands-on caregiving, cognitive and physical stimulation, to companionship. Often caregivers wait too long. They might already face burnout or their loved ones is no longer comfortable with unfamiliar people coming in. Investigate your options early on to support your mental health.
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Dealing With Change
In situations where realities are not aligned, it’s important to meet your loved one where they are at. Validating their feelings, acknowledging their question, and distracting them into an activity they enjoy are ways to make situations less distressing for your loved one. Understanding how the disease impacts the brain can help the care team separate behaviours that are part of the disease from the person they love.
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Mitigating Caregiver Burnout
Caregivers stress is an inevitable part of caregiving. But caregiver exhaustion can be mitigated by a number of different strategies. Most importantly caregivers from the care team need to come together and share the load.
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Dealing With Guilt as a Caregiver
Caregivers often experience guilt, for example when they take a break for themselves or when feeling like they are not doing enough. However, your loved one would likely never want you to put yourself last all the time.
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Supporting Each Other as a Care Team
Asking for help is uncomfortable and we don’t want to look weak. However, all caregivers need to recharge and focus on their own priorities at times. No one can do it alone. Others might want to help but don't know when or how. Dr. Christine Knight shares insights on inviting others into your care team.
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Self-Compassion Over Self-Care for Caregivers
Self-care is important, but yet another task to accomplish. Self-compassion is about offering yourself the same compassion that you would offer to a friend. You may also use the self-compassion worksheet (PDF) below.
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Successful Care Teams: Tips From Professionals
In their research and practice, these professionals have seen many examples of care teams. Here they share their insights on what makes a successful care team and how to best support each other in difficult and stressful times.
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Healthy Grieving Along the Way
Alzheimer’s and related dementias are progressive and degenerative diseases, there is no cure. As a caregiver, you will experience losses every day. These losses are ambiguous because you have the person physically present, but you’re losing them emotionally and psychologically. Allow yourself to find a way to grieve the losses along the journey in a way that feels right.
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How to Ask for Support Guide
This resource helps you navigate your role as caregiver and find support from others in your care team to make the journey easier and more balanced.
DownloadNavigating Levels of Support Guide
This resource helps you explore different types of support so you can manage caregiving challenges, reduce stress, and provide the best care for your loved one.
DownloadLetter to Your Loved One Worksheet
Work through your feelings by writing an unsent letter to your loved one with dementia.
DownloadMessy Conversations Guide
Tips and tricks on how to navigate the messy and difficult conversations that you may wish to have with your loved ones.
DownloadSigns & Signals Journal
Notice the different signs and signals of dementia and recognize the patterns so you can help your loved one get the support they need.
DownloadMemory Box Guide
Come together with your care team to share memories and create a collection of items to help you connect with your loved one.
DownloadSelf-Compassion Worksheet
Identify how to treat yourself with the same care and support that you would give a friend who is struggling.
DownloadBrain Banter Card Game
Create a safe space and strengthen your care team through meaningful conversations and moments of fun. Recommended to play with your forgotten caregivers (kids 10+).
DownloadYour Ripples Team
To create the best opportunities for success, you can assemble a team of other caregiver types to support you in your caregiving journey. Below are the caregiver types most directly associated with The Protective Spouse.
Can you identify who plays these roles on your team?
The Designated Director
The person taking on the majority of care and decision making for a loved one living with dementia.
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The family member who lives in a different city and cares for a loved one living with dementia.
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The friend who is there to support a caregiver or person living with dementia.
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The community member that provides small acts of kindness to caregivers or those living with dementia.
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